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By Cathy Spaas, HSP Specialist & Coach to High-achieving Creatives<\/strong><\/p>\n When it comes to the ways we address issues of mental health and self-care, we\u2019ve definitely come a long way…<\/strong> but much of that progress centers on regular people. We know more about how stress and trauma impact doctors, office workers, and teachers, and have adjusted our reactions and language accordingly. But we don\u2019t often think about the unique challenges faced by actors, musicians, elite athletes, and other performers who live their entire lives in the spotlight. These people are rich, famous and supposedly have it all\u2026 but they may face crippling anxiety, stress, self-doubt, rejection, even self-sabotage. In fact, many performers grapple with a whole slew of mental health pressures uniquely associated with being at the top of their profession.<\/p>\n Consider this: many actors are required to excavate the murky depths of their own souls to bring authenticity to their roles<\/strong>\u2026 and may still be met with lukewarm or dismissive reviews. Athletes give their entire selves to their sports, but may face angry derision if their performance somehow falls short or teammates fail to rally. Dancers, singers, and other artists are constantly expected to pour their most vulnerable selves into their work, yet fans feel perfectly free to trash the resulting art across social media.<\/p>\n Top performers of all types walk a perilous tightrope between giving their all to their work and jeopardizing their mental health.<\/strong> They balance creating unforgettable art with maintaining their personal well being. Being famous means being criticized. Being a performer means learning to live with rejection.<\/p>\n How they keep their sanity in-tact is a mystery to many\u2026<\/strong> but not to me. As a coach who helps actors, musicians, and elite athletes navigate the challenges of life in the public eye, I\u2019ve seen how performers learn to cope with negativity from casting directors, peers, producers, and the public. Not to mention themselves! And to illustrate how resilient these gifted individuals can be, I interviewed seven prominent artists and performers about their experiences with criticism\u2014both internal and external\u2014and how they\u2019ve kept it from impacting their mental health. The insights they shared confirmed so much of what I already knew to be true.<\/p>\n Professionally Vulnerable<\/strong><\/p>\n Not only do performers operate in highly-demanding, highly-visible industries with unique pressures, they are often naturally empathetic, emotionally attuned individuals.<\/strong> This is what makes them so great at creating evocative art .. but it\u2019s also what makes them vulnerable to the nonstop rejection and negativity that accompanies their vocation.<\/p>\n \u201cWe’re naturally more sensitive creatures, we artists,\u201d says actress, dancer, and singer Emilia McCarthy.<\/strong> \u201cSo it’s interesting that we\u2019re the people who put ourselves in the most vulnerable profession. Actors are asked to do the craziest things. I don’t think there’s another profession really, where you\u2019re asked to be so vulnerable in front of an audience of people.\u201d<\/p>\n McCarthy told me she\u2019s seen colleagues whose depression and anxiety have been triggered relentlessly by the pressures of the acting industry, and that facing rejection can wear on their mental health. Daniella Monet<\/strong>, actor and founder of Kinder Beauty Box, agrees that offering up your best performance and being met with dismissal can be disheartening.<\/p>\n \u201cI wasn’t always very good at [coping with rejection]. When I was younger it was a lot harder and that showed up in various ways,\u201d Monet explains. \u201cMy mental health wasn’t great. I struggled in school. I was young and I was being spread a little too thin. I cared about what I was doing and I wanted to win. So anytime a door closed on me, it hurt and I took it personally.\u201d<\/p>\n Since I want my clients to thrive at the highest level, create their most authentic and profound work, and find lasting fulfillment, I urge them to acclimate to constant feedback. Performers will never exist in a vacuum, and learning to manage the input they inevitably receive\u2014both positive and negative\u2014is a hugely important coping mechanism. Even just accustoming themselves to being observed and seen is a skill worth cultivating.<\/p>\n \u201cYou get this crazy extra-perceptual thing based on the people that are watching you and how you’re performing,\u201d says former extreme sports athlete Jeff Lavin<\/strong>. \u201cEventually you get into the state as an athlete where you see how other people see you.\u201d<\/p>\n There\u2019s no question that criticism, rejection, and never ending scrutiny take their toll. But performers are becoming increasingly savvy in stewarding their mental health in the face of these negative energies.<\/p>\n Be Yourself, Protect Yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n Singer-songwriter Olivia King<\/strong> has had her fair share of critique and disappointment. From fan comments to canceled record contracts, she\u2019s had to cope with the gamut of invalidation. But, as she told me, she\u2019s learned to ride the waves in her own way.<\/p>\n \u201cI’ve gotten to where I hate showing people my music before I put it out because someone could hate it and someone could love it, and then I start doubting myself,\u201d King explains. \u201cSo I’ve started to just zone in, do my thing, and release it. If you like it, great. If you don’t, you don’t. People just have different opinions about it. It’s so subjective.\u201d<\/p>\n It took a lot of self-reflection to realize that she didn\u2019t need to share her new songs until they were released to the public, but now that she knows that, King has stepped fully into her confidence.<\/p>\n As a film and television actor, Bill Oberst Jr. may not have to contend with pre-release criticism of his work, but he does have to wrestle with another tough opponent: social media.<\/strong> Oberst has worked hard to ground himself in self-acceptance and wisdom, but ten minutes on Twitter can erode that confidence.<\/p>\n \u201cSuddenly, you are connected with 100,000 people who follow and wait for you to say things. Invariably, out of 100,000 people, you will have 2,000 who will comment negatively on what you say and pull it apart,\u201d he says. \u201cIt makes you not want to say anything.\u201d<\/p>\n He admits that he\u2019s often tempted to overreact to online goading, but has found his personal key to managing the negativity: a combination of detachment and empathy.<\/p>\n \u201cThe easy familiarity with which we hurl insults virtually, it’s very human, but it can be very damaging if you don’t realize that ultimately, it’s not real!\u201d Oberst says. \u201cYou realize that we’re all children, and this is just another sandbox.\u201d<\/p>\n Actress Kelly Rutherford<\/strong> navigates rejection and criticism by redirecting her focus. Over time, she\u2019s realized that dwelling in the negative just creates more negativity, but that the opposite can be true, too. Rutherford shapes her reality by elevating the positive in her life.<\/p>\n \u201cNow I\u2019m focusing on what I wanted to create, versus continually talking about and focusing on the problems,\u201d she says. That was a huge shift.\u201d<\/p>\n Dee Wallace, whose acting career spans multiple decades, agrees that the key to living with critique and scrutiny is mindfulness and authenticity.<\/strong> That making choices around how you think and feel can completely transform your experience of the artistic professions.<\/p>\n \u201cIt’s so important that you choose to define yourself,\u201d Wallace insists. \u201cIt’s not anything about what somebody else thinks about you. You have to say, \u2018This is who I am.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n As a former elite international showjumper myself, I\u2019m no stranger to the spotlight and the unique pressures faced by those ascending to the upper echelons of their profession. But I was so grateful to these successful creatives for sharing their tactics and insights with me. Performers have a tendency to look inward when we feel distressed \u2026 but clearly, we can learn a lot from each other about how to protect our boundaries and access our confidence in the face of a tough and trying industry.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re an artist or athlete and would like bespoke guidance, please reach out to me! Through my own lived experience in this space, I have become a world class-coach to professional performers, artists, actors, and creatives. My methods push far beyond mere performance coaching; I use the Claim Your Shine modality to help highly-sensitive artists seeking deep personal development to live a life of both massive professional impact AND lasting fulfillment. 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